Fierce Natural Hair: My Hair Routine


relaxed vs natural hair

It’s been 2 years and 2 month since my last relaxer and this journey back to my curls has been a real interesting one!  I’ve learned quite a lot and went through a gazillion products to find out what works for me and what doesn’t.  One major thing I learned through all of it is everything is not for everyone.  You have to do what works for you and your unique head of hair.  With much trial and error I’ve finally found a routine that works and I can finally share it with you guys!

First, a little bit about my hair.  It has about three different textures going on (took me awhile to come to terms with that!) and overall my hair is fine. The back is thick and is the softest, feeling like a nice cotton ball.  The curls are super tight so the length is very misleading.  The crown area is the finest and the curls are very loose.  It frizzes the quickest so I always have to add extra product to hold it together.  The front and the sides are a mix between the two.  The curls can stay coily as long s I don’t pull it back too much. Otherwise it stretches out until it’s almost straight and looks crazy compared to the rest of my hair.  What I like the most about this part of my hair is I can go curly or go straight very easily, unlike the back which is very stubborn when it comes to straightening.

Okay, here’s my hair care breakdown:

1.  Washing/Conditioning:  I wash my hair with shampoo once a week.  Any more than that and it’s a dry mess!  My favorite shampoo is Shea Moisture’s Moisture Retention Shampoo.  The sulfate-free shampoo leaves my hair clean and soft without stripping it of it’s natural oils.  Mid week (or whenever my hair is looking kinda tired) I wash with conditioner only to refreshen them up and detangle my hair.  I only comb my hair with tons of conditioner in it, otherwise it’s breakage city!  My favorite conditioners are Aussie Moist and Hello Hydration from Herbal Essence.  Love that stuff!

My hair after it’s freshly washed with my styling products.

2.  Styling Products:  No matter how I style my hair I always follow these four steps.  After drying my hair with an old T-shirt (they are most gentler than a towel) I apply a leave in conditioner.  The one by Cantu is my favorite and I’ve been using it for over a year.  Then I follow up with a moisturizing product, Shea Moisture’s Curling Smoothie.  It’s heavy enough to keep my hair moisturized but light enough not to way my hair down, especially in the front.  To keep the moisture in, I go old school with Extra Virgin Olive Oil.  A lot of girls with natural hair love using shea butter but I found it was way to heavy for my hair.  Final step is applying Shea Moisture’s Curling Souffle, which acts like a hair gel to hold my curls in place while they dry.  And oh, after each step, I give my hair a little shake to keep my curls loose.

3.  My Go To Styles:  Out of the millions of styles I’ve tried over the years I’ve found three that work the best for my hair:

Natural Hair
Wash and Go: After I finish applying my styling products, I just leave my hair alone and let it dry.  On the first day, my hair always looks the shortest, which I’m not crazy about but I deal.  Once it’s dry, I put my hair up in little ponytails and cover it with a satin cap overnight which helps stretch my curls and get my hair bigger, just like I like it!  I’ve been wearing this style a lot lately not only because it’s easy but my grows the best when I just leave it alone.

Natural Hair

High Puff:  When my wash and go hair is starting to look a little tired or I want to switch things up, I slick my hair up using water and the Curling Souffle and tie it up with an old headband that I cut so I can tie it.  I sometimes add in a hair accessory to have some fun.

Flat Twists

Two Side Twists:  This is my husband’s favorite hair style so I make sure I put this one in rotation a few times a year. After washing my hair and putting in my normal round of products, I part my hair down the middle and do two flat twists on each side.  Because my hair in the middle frizzes up so easy, I end up redoing the twists every two days to keep them looking neat.


Other popular natural hair styles like twists, twist out, braid out, etc. just don’t work on my hair.  Because my hair is so fine it looks very piecey and stringy and never looks right.  So I gave up on those and just goes with what works!


Is your hair naturally curly?  What is your hair care routine?




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  1. So many different styles! I like all of them. I remember the first time I met you, you had the long straight hair and the second time we got together I didn’t even recognize you because you changed it to short curls! I had to do a double take haha! I’m with your husband on the twists- that’s probably my favorite.

  2. I LOVE your natural hair. It’s gorgeous. I so wish my hair could have such pretty curl tendrils.

  3. I’ve been natural for 2 years now and I have 4C/4D hair (e.g., really coarse hair with not real curl pattern/tightly wound hair) and it’s difficult to work with sometimes but I’m managing. One thing I’ve fallen in love with is hot oil treatments. I used hot extra virgin olive oil on my hair and wrapped it with a hot towel for about 20 minutes and felt a little piece of heaven the whole time. It left my hair really soft and my ends didn’t feel as brittle. I haven’t experimented with any hairstyles other than the two-strand twist out simply because it’s simple and easy to do. For finer hair, try twisting it out while it’s dry rather than wet. I told a friend of mine to do the same thing and she found it to work better for her. If you find that the twists are loosening up, pin a few of them up together with bobby pins before you go to sleep so it can set properly overnight. Once it’s developed a curl you shouldn’t have a problem re-twisting them up even when you’re getting ready for bed. This style typically lasts a week or longer depending on how you care for it. There’s a girl on YouTube (Napturally85 I believe) who revived her by simply doing a co-wash and spraying jojoba oil on it to put shine and curl definition back in her hair after a week. This could work for you because you seem to have the same hair type as she does.

    Ok I’ve said enough. I tend to get long winded in the comment section of blogs lol. I hope this helps! Your curls look beautiful by the way.

    • MJ

       /  August 29, 2012

      Hot oil treatments are the best! When my hair is feeling extra dry or when my scalp is acting up I heat up the oil olive too! I’ve tried the twist outs on dry hair but for some reason they don’t last too long. When my hair gets dry it frizzes like crazy! I’m thinking I need to go get a really good hair cut. I might have some split end issues going on that need to be taken care of.

      Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting! 🙂

      • I just cut an inch of my hair off last night because my ends were so bad. Finger-detangling my hair sounding like I was tearing paper so I knew something was up. Plus part of my hair would feel soft while the ends felt brittle. I cut those ends off and decided maybe I should start over. I’m going to increase the number of hot oil treatments I do, hopefully that’ll help alleviate the brittle end issue. When you do your hot oil treatments, do you rinse your oil out of keep it in?

      • Cutting off those dead ends is a good idea! I rinse the oil out and shampoo normally.

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